Little tired, so apologies for the confusion. Is this a list for you to verbally remind yourself when speaking to her or are you adding these things to the 'ok, take the stuff' letter?
My gut says saying 'the door is open' to her would pack more punch, but you've got to go with what you think best.
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY