This may sound a bit goofy, and might not at all work for you, but here goes.
Sometimes, in situations like this, I find inspiration in my collection of favorite movies. One that comes to mind here is "The Truman Show". Many people don't react to that film in the same way as I have -- for me it's quite a bit deeper than the quirky situation the main character finds himself in. To me, it's all about finding courage to live by the judgement of your own mind, and honoring your own right to find truth and happiness, even if doing so conflicts with those around you who claim to care about you.
If you happen to watch it in the near future, I'd be interested to know if any of it resonates with you. Or anyone else here.
It'll also explain my choice of username here on the board, if anyone is curious.
I'd also recommend American Beauty, though hopefully your situation is quite a bit brighter than that one. I found it very satisfying to see someone finally reach a breaking point where they could no longer defer their happiness and needs, and take responsibility for their own happiness by taking action to achieve it (albeit with some poor choices along the way). I don't recommend watching this one with the wife though.
