I'm just curious. If HD and his wife were friends of yours who had a good sex life and fairly good relationship and had the same issue pop up, would everyone still so quickly and easily say "screw her and go ahead and go?"

I am NOT saying that he shouldn't go but I just don't feel like I can wholeheartedly encourage him to go without having the balls to stand up to her and address THEIR issues. I think if he stands up and listens to the underlying reasons for her comments there is a good chance that they TOGETHER can figure out how he can get out to Tucson. This could be something they figure out together.

The theory seems to be that she will respect him for doing this but isn't it just as possible that she will add this to examples of how he does not listen to her issues and how he just avoids things and runs away from issues?

I don't mean to "pick" on Hdog at all because I think he seems like a really great guy. I just worry that simply insisting on this trip without the rest of the work will not be the best way for him to gain his own self respect and get his marriage back on track.



But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus