Unfortunately we moved away from family and we never really had alot of family on either side. I have a few friends to watch the kids, and am slowly growing that network of people.
I am not pushing the kids, we have set days (his days off) that he takes them. And this last week he mentioned in two phone calls (that he initiated) that he wanted the kids on his off days for a few hours, those were the days I didn't hear any more about it. I did tell him yesterday that he needs to communicate with me, I do have a life and he was understanding.
I did exactly what you said when we went to get the car, I was attractive, friendly, happy, joking. Asked him about work, let him do all the talking. Even when the talk involved stories of the OW (since she works with us) I did not flinch, I just acted like he was a good friend, no ties, etc. I honestly think it did work a bit, because when we got home, he hung around and talked and even spent a couple hours outside doing yardwork. We had to stop at the store on the way back to my house and typically he would not want us to all go in together because he is afraid I would get my hopes up, etc, blah, blah. But today he insisted we all go in the store together, once in the store I went my seperate way, and made sure to keep my distance, etc. The OW even called while we were in the store he mentioned he was in the store picking up stuff, but never mentioned he was with me. He asked her, do you want something? but not in the way did she want something from the store, more in the way of why are you calling me?
Then later when he was doing yard work and we were outside, the phone rang, and he didn't even look at it, he just pushed the button to not answer. I know it was her, because she went and got him his own phone so she can call him on it.
She calls him all the time, and is always at his house and I get s sneaking suspicion that he is getting tired of it.
who knows, maybe i am reading more into it. but today was definetily different then before, and I will just continue on with the LRT since from what I can tell it appears to be working?
