All this other talk about challenging her control and getting back your balls, etc, is true, but is also a confrontational path that will backfire. It is also not an HONEST path. Just standing up and fighting with her is actually a lie of sorts, because you are not being honest with her about expressing your hurts and your vulnerability. Rather you are lashing back at out because of your hurts. That is the dishonest part.
There's no need to lash out, and there's no need for conflict to get back his balls. Going to Tucson is not a provocative move, as long as he informs her beforehand. She's talking nonsense, and he doesn't need to "fight" her... he just needs to filter out the nonsense and stop believing it so he can get a life without fearing what she has to say about it. Her telling him that he's a lazy, useless screwup that has no business spending $200 on himself should be as likely to provoke conflict as her telling him that the sky is a lovely shade of green today. Just smile and wave.
Originally Posted By: Cobra
One other point. Tell her that you understand she is feeling jealous over you going on this trip and that she might have concerns that you could have fun with your friends that could run into some stray female looking to pick you up. DON’T ask her if she is jealous. She is, but she won’t admit it. Just tell her that you are glad to see this side of her because it tells you that she really does care, but she has nothing to worry about. THAT is being honest and that is something I think she will hear.
Maybe so. If she is jealous and trying to hide it, him pointing it out and honestly sympathizing with her will either get her back arched and her tail poofy, or it'll make her melt. Either way, it'll do something that could turn out to be progress.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
