It's going to be a bumpy ride

[Dom R]

"supposed to", is up to you.

if you want to do that then do that. Dont date him; tell him your conditions of return/reestablishing contact with you, when he moves out. Then dont speak to him, until he's ready to fulfil your conditions.


or, if you want to stay in contact with him, and work the gentler persuasion methods.. do that instead.

Thing is, with the other site... the plan b thing, usually works best, when you have shown the other person that you can be different, consistantly, for quite a while, before going dark.

I dont think that you've done that.


Another thought: My opinion is that you should not judge what your spouse is going to do, based on what he tells other people. you should try to estimate, based on his actions. Him telling your mother something, doesnt neccesarily mean anything.
he's been having sex with you. recently. there's a fairly big "action" to consider.
it would mean more, if your genders were reversed, unfortunately. but it's still something to consider.



and then agian.. :-) in some ways, "going dark" shows that you are strong.
it's kinda a roll the dice thing, without being able to read his mind or the future, i'm afraid.

anyone else wanna chime in here?