She told me that if I keep on pushing her she will never reconsider and she says it dont matter if I make changes. I realized that I should not tell her nothing about what I am doing and let her be. I have read some post where I should let her be 'free' and see if that is really what she wants. I wont contact her as often as I do. I will only ask the basics and try not to pay her too much attention and just focus on our child.
That sounds like the start of a good plan. Even though I have had the lightbulb moment about how I was pushing my W away, I have had some stumbles when no sooner do the words leave my lips that I know I goofed. It is a hard habit to break.
One of the sayings you will find here (if you haven't already, you have a few more posts than I do) is that you can't trust anything they say and half of what they do. This can be hard to swallow because we so desperately want to cling onto anything good and keep a PMA.
You've made some positive changes already. You've got more of an opportunity for her to see them continue and be on the receiving end of actions that can lead to your marriage to continue.
Good luck
Me 40 W 38 S 4 M 7.75 ILYBNILWY 6/8/07 "do not want to be your W" 6/16/07 DB'ing 6/30/07
1st M 6 yrs; she was my first WAW
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