My ride on the Roller Coaster called WAW Hell

[Heimlich]

Steel,

Let me say upfront that the following is skewed by a poor MC experience. She got us to talk about our feelings without giving us any alternatives or ways to get closer together. So, that said.

It doesn't seem like she is hesitant regarding anything else.

Are you two doing things together/spending time alone together. Not necesarily intimacy, but playing games, tv, idle chit-chat, whatever it is you two do that makes the R special? If so, that's cool. Is she willing to talk about making the R better by following suggestion in DR or any of the other R books? If so, I wouldn't push because of

Could it be that she is working on everything regarding the present and trying to avoid the past?

Dredging up the past may be counterproductive at this time. If she's working towards a future together, rehashing old hurts/pains might set you back. Eventually, yes, I think you have to get those feelings on the table. But, when your relationship is still balanced on a fine edge, I'd be more willing to focus on strengthening the R rather than focusing on what got you to where you are. Once the R is strong again, then go over all that other stuff. Who knows, by then, you might not even need to.

BD