I detect a trend where she goes off and spends time DOING THINGS FOR OTHERS
Except the "retreat" was definitely something for herself. While not exactly "fun", it was a Buddhist meditation retreat and she does enjoy that sort of thing. I think that you might have a point about her having a problem with me going somewhere and having "fun", though. How f@cked up is that? And as far as her feeling she is always taking care of others, I'm sure she probably does feel like that some of the time. Her job is all about taking care of others (divorce attorney). When she wakes up, she has to get herself and our daughter ready to hit the road. But , but the time she gets home, daughter is fed, bathed, and usually ready for bed, having spent the last four hours with me.
I guess my point is, I take care of others, too. But I'm trying to remember that I haven't always been ONLY the father, the husband, the worker. I used to be some people's friend. I used to be the funny guy who loved to make people laugh, and would do just about anything to crack someone up. Somewhere, there is a picture of me with my pants down around my ankles, with only a dormitory sign between my genitals and the camera. Yep...that's me.
