He even said if you think your "private part" ( he said something vulgar not that word) is so special you are wrong I can find that anywhere,,, you do nothing for me and you are not special.
My first H said something similar. All I could say was, "and you think yours is any better ... bet I can get it even quicker and easier than you can get one of mine?" or words to that affect. Guess I shouldn't have said anything, 'cause he smacked me right out of the bed. I always was too smart-mouthed for my own good. Thank goodness, I left that loser as quickly as I did, and didn't waste more time on him. And, I met my present H 9 days after my D was final, and we have been together for 22 years now.
Anyway, know that what he is saying is just words. He is trying to belittle you, and saying these stupid things, and trying to insult your womanhood, out of poor meanness, malice, and quite frankly, stupidity. No-one's private parts is any special than another's, and just 'cause you can get into the sack with another person easily, doesn't say much for that person's character. So, ultimately, he really is insulting himself, 'cause he's showing his true, sick colours. Oh, and yours is really special, because you don't share it with other men, so he is really projecting his own insecurities and unspecialness onto you. Because he knows he swopped his virtue for a roll in the hay. How special is he?
Let this man go. Until the real him shows up again, you are just getting yourself hurt, and your children. He needs to fix himself before he's any good for anyone.
I know things are going to be tough for you, no matter what choice you make ... seems choices have been taken out of your hands though. My heart truly aches for someone in your position. I feel you have to set some boundaries in place. And, just because you're possibly getting divorced, does not relieve your H of his responsibilities with his children, and even you. Check out your legal rights. Also, lean on family if need be, and friends that you truly trust. Being strong doesn't mean you have to tough it out alone.
Really, take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
