When I do, it is more out of forgetfullness or lack of awareness, than it is volitional. And I have to say that my forgetfullness is not just a passive aggressive thing.

I have the exact same thing so I know how it is to not always remember!! Ask Raven sometime about how forgetful I can be. He does a great job dealing with it and not taking it personally because he knows it is not meant personally. My friends are very understanding too.

So ask her whether she is just mad at you for eating the olives OR is she mad at you because she thinks you are being inconsiderate and uncaring. Really they are two different things.

Because Raven and I have a long distance relationship, a lot of our talking is done here and there when we have a bit of time. I have a horrible habit of being in the middle of a conversation and needing to end it abruptly. I know it feels rude and I can usually sense his irritation. BUT when we talk later and I apologize, he is always okay. He says that yes he is upset at the moment with my quick good bye but after realizing it isn't personal he gets over it quickly. I don't expect or want him to not have that initial "bothered" feeling. What is good is that he can let it go because he does not personalize it.

Does that make ANY sense???



But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus