It is a whirl wind of events. My H has quit his high paying job back east and is on his way home to help his brother sell his business. This is where he worked last year. My BIL lost his son in a fatal accident a year ago. He was supposed to be back there till November.
Now the DRAMA starts with the OW again. He has had his checks sent to me. He says that he has fallen out of love with me and doesn't know if he wants to slend the next 25 years with me. but he still loves me and wants to help me. He calls me every day about 4 times and calls her all the time. I had blown up and told him I couldn't take it any more about a month ago when I found out he had left an extra phone for her. Now what do I do. Our financial situation is in partnerships with his family and it will be a nightmare.....He still calls for advice and always ask me how to do something. I have worked to hard for 25 years to walk away and leave everything. He thinks that he is doing nothing wrong and that he is supply me a good living what more would I want......(his dad was like this to) but my MIL was to afraid to leave and she is cold hearted and just said he wasn't getting her part. That is what he was raised with. My MIL told me the other day at least he doesn't beat you. I told her the mental abuse that this has cause is worse. I am greedy enough I want to make sure I get what is coming to me if I leave. The OW has told people that we are getting a divorce and I have been served with the papers and I am a b*&ch and won't sign them......She has also told her family we are divorced but I saw some of them and I had my wedding ring on and someone else told them we weren't. Enough negative stuff.....Any advice ...I am trying to stay positive and work toward some goals...A whole new learning process on setting goals it has been H, boys and his family and the business so long I had for got about me. It is very hard to face that we have to set goals and move ahead....
