I feel for you, girl...I have dreams in which it all goes away! Very nice dreams they are, too.
I think that you must make the time you spend with your ex-husband totally good time, non-stressful time, non-relationship-talk time. Be his friend. Listen to what he has to say. Agree with him. I think that your best chance of reuniting with him may just happen along the course of being his best friend....and what best friends do is validate--support.
Remember that salving the hurt can take a lot of time. Don't be in a hurry to fix things. It simply takes time, loads of patience. It wouldn't hurt if your focus were to turn inward for a time. Think about changing some aspect of your life, just for your own sake--just for YOU.
Is there something that you've always wanted to do? Take time for you!
