I'm sorry to hear that you are here, too. I'm a newbie like you, and have read DR, actually my W found it and nervously asked me to read chapter 1 after she found it online. We started reading together, taking turns, and then trying to talk about it. If you are sharing some reading like that, one suggestion I would make is don't force a conversation once you know your H has finished reading. Let's just say that I did and it left my W feeling more "squeezed"

Like you see in your own DR path, there have been many encouraging signs along the way, and I have done much to adjust my expectations. You are probably already familiar with "don't trust anything they say and half of what they do," and I am finding this is helping me not end up on the roller coaster ride with her.

There does sound like there is much hope in your sitch. Savor that but be patient above all else.

Good luck, keep reading and sharing.

Me 40
W 38
S 4
M 7.75
ILYBNILWY 6/8/07
"do not want to be your W" 6/16/07
DB'ing 6/30/07

1st M 6 yrs; she was my first WAW

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