My husband subscribes to the "marriage builders" techniques of allowing him total access to everything I do, including my finances.
This may already have been addressed - I'm only on page 1 of 6 but this should also be applied in reverse - if you have to be 100% open with everything, he should offer you the same courtesy. That is what I struggle with right now in our R.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...