Ummm if she is committed to your M, she will have to completely cut ties with this man - friend or not.

I'm just saying - if you ask her it will be seen as you not trusting her (and obviously you don't - and for good reason).

Have you two sought any type of counseling?

....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am
I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon
~ Avril Lavigne ~
..."Nobody's Fool"...

me=ok /D'd since 7/07
D=ok