I will see what I do, I will ask her because if I don't it will eat me alive. She has not said that it is all over, well she said the sex part is over with OM but they would like to try to remain friends. It is also challenging since OM was a friend of mine and we have many mutual friends and extended social circle. I guess it must add to their confusion looking at the mess just beyond how they have hurt us and their marriages. Or at least I like to think that they think something seemingly sensible.
Also, I will be away from the internet for until monday so will have a journal and write when I need to. Sometimes just good to "talk" a little even if no one is listening.