Nomopo Trying to Exercise Patience/Manage Emotions

[Nomopo]

Thanks GD!

I'd sure like to know what the special advice was from S.D. that got you that hug (can't the rest of us be privy? ).

Sure you can. Sunny can fill in later because she (and still) were the ones who conveyed the message, but basically they said quit trying so hard. Quit being right there all the time. Quit answering phone calls and emails so quickly. Be perfectly pleasant, nice, positive and upbeat when you do interact, but she will likely move your way more when she starts to get the idea that you really might not be there for her. As long as she knows you are waiting at her feet/doorstep/something like that, she is unlikely to reinvest. Why would she? She doesn't have to.

So, I started doing it at in San Diego. (See journaling later.) It's way to early to tell, but the advice makes perfect sense, and the very early results are good. I'll keep you posted. My W is by no means out of any woods, but maybe these are the earliest signs that she is finding a compass.

Nomo