- I want her to call me during the day, should I ask if that is what she wants? Should I ask if it is OK for me to call her? - So I did. I asked if she was Ok w/ me calling to talk during the day. She said it was "fine" with her, "if you want to call, call". - Now here is the hard part to hear. CVA - "You tend not to call so I guess I am not sure if you want to talk during the day or not" -- YES, I KNOW, NOT A GREAT LINE! W - "Umm, yeah, I will call if I want to talk or need to talk to you, OK"
So, I am not feeling great about that exchange but, I realize the mistake I made (CVA KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT!). She seems to have had absolutely no issues with that exchange and still in a really good mood, so I just drop all talk and have a good evening together. So, good job CVA not pushing it any further.
Yes, good job not pushing it further and do keep your mouth shut (for a while). Seriously, give it some more time. Patience, grasshopper. You want to fix it so bad. I know. Me too. Generally doesn't help, and when in doubt, don't! That's a rule of thumb to add to your list (if you don't have it already).
One last thing - you said you didn't feel good about the exchange. It really wasn't that bad. So, you didn't get your needs met. What's new? Nothing has anything really changed in your sitch. Did you learn anything bad that you didn't already know? Absolutely not. You're no worse off than you thought you were before you started the exchange. So the only reason you felt bad about the exchange is you had expectations or hopes up. Was it really possible she'd say, "Why yes CVA, I have been dying to talk with you in the day, and I just wish you had asked me earlier!"? No. But she was calm and polite back, and she didn't look at you like you were a lunatic, so it was harmless.
Originally Posted By: CVA
Chalk it up to me wanting to hear from my W and have her ask about my day.
In other words, trying to get your needs met. We all want to, but not likely yet. Be patient.
Originally Posted By: CVA
Damn, I wish I was a ROCK and didnt have those thoughts. LEARN, LEARN, LEARN CVA. BIG STOP SIGN.
No biggie. Live and learn, and let it go.
Originally Posted By: CVA
Gotta say, I was not in a good mood for about an hour and did not act like the best dad during that period while giving S7 & S5 bath time. MANAGE EMOTIONS CVA!
You don't need us. You've got it all figured out.
Originally Posted By: CVA
Taking care of kids tonight while W goes out w/ two friends to a movie and quick dinner. Wish me luck everyone!
You don't need no stinkin' luck.
Nomo
M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link
Seriously, give it some more time. Patience, grasshopper. You want to fix it so bad. I know. Me too. Generally doesn't help, and when in doubt, don't! That's a rule of thumb to add to your list (if you don't have it already).
