Heimlich, I'm sorry it didn't turn out to be a warm and happy homecoming. I know you were hoping for things to be different, but you weren't expecting it so nothing is worse than before right? There were a lot of things that might have been working against you, the traveling, delays, her headache, and it was after 1 am. That's a lot to overcome.
Like you said today is a new day, and you never know which day will be THAT ONE, so keep trying.
In case no one has told you lately, everyone here is pulling for you!
-Steel
M 39, W 35 D7, S5 Friends 18+ Together 11+ Married 8 ILYBINILWY 4/7/07 - A BOMB 4/29/07 Seperated 5/16/07 - D Filed She Moved out 7/1 D Busted 6/15/08
H (and others) I think them not caring what we do all day is maybe the toughest part. Basically, sounds like we are in the same boat the in terms of affection. I dont think any of us understand it, after years of marriage and intimacy, but we all have to accept it or it is going to eat us alive.
CVA
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
Sorry things didn't go as planned. Well I don't know if you actually thought things would be better maybe you just hoped they would. Wait a see how today and the rest of the weekend goes. I think we both are going to be in this position for some time. I think it is going to take time. A lot more time then we want to wait anyway. I know there are success stories and there is no reason why we can't be one. I know if both of you give up and don't try then you probably won't have a success. So get that PMA going, take one day at a time and just decide to be happy no matter what!
Yeah, I've learned not to talk to my WAW at night after it gets too late. She just shuts down. Ofcourse, we would be willing to talk if it was 4am and we had just got done working for a week straight, but that's just crazy us. Why do we actually care about out M? No resentment there at all
Thanks for the support, folks. Yeah, didn't really expect things to go differently, but would have been nice. No movement forward or back, so, we're exactly where we were when she left.
She did say that it looked like I had lost a little more weight, so that was good (as the girls say, "No more fat daddy").
Had brought a banana for a little snack, but forgot it in the van. Called her just after she left for work to warn her (would've been a lovely smell after 9 hours enclosed in a vehicle parke in 93 degree weather). I was still half-asleep. She apologized for being snippy (which I wasn't picking up at all, she actually sounded in a good mood). Trying to remember if that's different, I think so.
Strapped in for the long haul. About time to reread DR.
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
The lack of affection is killing me. Amazing how much a hug from the person you love makes you feel so much better. Not having that is one of the things I miss the most. That and the casual touching that you have when you're in a long relationship. Having to stop/consider hand placement still just seems bizarre, you know?
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
Having to stop/consider hand placement still just seems bizarre, you know?
Unfortunately I do know. So stupid.
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1162413&page=2#Post1162413 M-28 W-28 Together 10 years Married 2 years No children Things started taking a turn in 01/07
Yes I know. Just sitting on the couch w/ W last night thinking the same thing.
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
Having to stop/consider hand placement still just seems bizarre, you know?
Ditto here BD. Last night it was trying to figure out if 2 sort of circular rubs on my lower back by H was an improvement over the 1 longer hug, but only a single circular stroke
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Amazing how much a hug from the person you love makes you feel so much better. Not having that is one of the things I miss the most.