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[COG]

Okay, time to jump in here on the topic of FRIENDSHIP!

Yes it's the classic dumping line, "I just want to be friends". Yes every time our WAS asks us to be "friends", it's a reminder of what we've lost. "No, I don't want to be friends. I want sex, I want security, I want to know you love me and want me. I want to know that you'll never leave me, I want to go BACK to what we had before. I was secure, I was happy, and YOU are the one that left. YOU are the one that's screwed up. What's wrong with you, can you see I love you, I want you, I'll do anything for you?"

Does that thinking sound a little familiar? Okay so here's the deal, it's real simple. Friendship is the foundation for any lasting relationship. When you build a house, you START with the foundation. You don't put the roof on first and then try to build the foundation. No, friendship, the foundation, comes first.

So PLEASE do not take friendship lightly. It will take you miles up river. Just set your pride aside, send your neediness, fear, and insecurity away, and live in the moment. Be friends, treat your WAS like any other aquaintance. Try it, and see what happens.

Love,

COG

PS Amy, may the Holy Spirit fill your heart with passion, and awe, and my you be inspired to come out of the dark and into the light!