Me and my girl went swimming in the lake for about 2 1/2 hours today. My o my, the uhhhh scenery down there was driving me somewhat nuts. We went out to dinner, then for ice cream. (which I couldnt really afford.......)
Right now she is decorating my living room with the popcorn she spilled. I love my daughter, but she does know how to try my patience at times. I hope she is sleeping in an hour.
As far as everything else goes. I need to give WAW some sort of answer on Friday about her list of things she plans on taking. I am going to let her know that I do not have a problem with the things on the list. Request of her a few things:
Card table and chairs that are at her sisters. The remote for the garage door. That she commits to a specific day for her "move" That she/they at least try not to leave me too big of a mess.
Also am still pondering.......we have had zero relationship talk since early may. It has been completely dark both ways on that for almost 3 months now. I want to somehow let her know, without pressuring, or even being to direct. But I do want to get across to her that I still consider the door still open. That I am still willing to work on things...... I guess get some sort of indication of where she is at.....something, anything......
After the dust settles for a week or 2 on her "move" then it will be time to open up some sort of dialoge on this house and financial aspects. I dont think any way I work this one that she will be happy about it... I still do wish for my marriage to work out, but I will damned if I am going to let all of this financially bury me.
Looking at this one way, I think that we have both been acting fairly well in respect of the best interest of our child. I think it could also be a big plus if this move goes off fairly smooth. At least some good will building is going on.
Cant hurt no matter which way this pans out. I am willing to be patient for some time yet. If I could get free of the financial crush, it would be a big relief for me. I know I could be patient for quite awhile longer if I didnt have to constantly worry about getting buried....
So that is where I am at....... well ....... at this moment at least. LOL Subject to change, at any time.
Thanks for the update G. You sound like you are thinking very clearly to me. You need to brainstorm some auntlen ways of gauging where your W is. Any ideas? Anyone else?
Nomo
M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link
Hey nomo thanks for the response. Now today I did go visit one of the breathern of your profession. I did not steal any of his books..lol. Uhhh what does "auntlen" mean??? (pictures uncle lenny in aunties dress....lol)
To be honest, if I were to take a shot at where she was at......say I had to lay $1000 on which way she is at least leaning. She is not planning to continue our marriage. I am becomming more accepting of that way of thinking. Maybe I havent put any sort of feelers out on this, is because I was not yet ready to hear it, yet.
I think I am getting there, ready to accept whatever way this is going to go. I will survive. I will be ok.
Don't know that I've posted to you before, but regarding your question about letting your W know the door is still open -- what about just telling her. A quick sentence or two and let it go. At least that way, you're sure she heard you.
Don't know that it's a great idea, but just a thought.
BD
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Yes I did Nomo. Thanks! Ha ha I even found a picture of you on the internet!! I changed my mind about you too. I had you pictured in my mind like the lawyer from Boston Legal, Alan Shore. But you look more like studly Brad Chase!!!
Thanks for all your support through this summer of fun!
Heimlich: Your remark about just out and saying it, is pretty much what I hit on about a half hour ago.....I think that is the route I am going to take. Thanks for your input!
Having a hard time shaking the cobwebs out this morning. Got the groggys, more coffee please!! I got so many things that I should be doing, just dont feel like doing any of them.
Yeah tommorow I am going to have a discussion with wife, things noted above. Going to work it out in my head today, good luck to me I guess.
It seems like I have been stuck so long that it is time to move forward no matter how it occurs.
regarding your question about letting your W know the door is still open -- what about just telling her. A quick sentence or two and let it go. At least that way, you're sure she heard you.
Don't know that it's a great idea, but just a thought.
I had the same idea. Maybe plan out exactly how you want to say it, and leave it at that. If w tries to continue the R talk, and you're comfortable continuing the talk, go with it. Otherwise, move on to something else. Good luck! You will be fine!
Have fun spending the evening with your kid!!!