You are so right. Thank you for that. I had just said to Steelerfan in an email that I have to admit to my sinful feelings about her. She was supposed to be my friend and instead she slept with my H after she knew that H and I had been together talking and hugging and kissing just two weeks prior. I HATE HER! Now I have to find a way to hand those feelings over to God and you are right about needing to forgive but like kissak said, I will never like her again or have any kind of relationship with her again. I know that H and OW will not stay together, she will begin to treat H like she treated her XH and he will not stand for it for long.
I really do think that forgiveness and patience are part of the lessons that God wants to learn and assimilate so that it is not easy for me to fall back into the same old behavior. The sad part is, I had thought I had the forgiveness part down pretty well as I thought I have forgiven a lot from my childhood but I find that I hadn't really forgiven, I had just buried old feelings. I will follow your advice and please pray for me and my family, too. We can use all the prayers we can get.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
