Nomopo Trying to Exercise Patience/Manage Emotions

[Nomopo]

Thanks WC. Think I forgot to respond before.

GD, I appreciate the visit and journaling will definitely happen today.

Hi delia - I will check on Shiloh, but not sure when. There are things at work and journaling that HAVE to happen today. Good to hear from you, BTW. I hope you're well. I am bummed the Austin event didn't pan out, but hopefully we can meet in Austin this Fall (maybe with Dustin, maybe with L21959, maybe others (dogma?)).

Lyrael, I had a peaceful night. Just rested. Was very tired.

My H is supposed to be coming up this Friday to stay for a week, pack us up, and move us down there.

I know you have given me some background on your sitch, but are you S'd from H? If so, I missed that (or forgot it) and I'm sorry. My earlier threads have been deleted now, so I can't go back and check your earlier posts to me. Do you have an active thread? If so, and you'd like me to follow along (and play), I'd be more than happy to do so.

I'm not sure I am doing the right thing by moving - I am having that weird flip-flop that sometimes happens after things are fixed. I'm concerned that I am going to move away from all of my close friends and my family, and then he is going to have infidelity issues, and I am going to end up alone in a new state. I can handle that, but I am not always sure that I want to.

Yes, you can handle it. Not knowing the details of your current R, I'm not sure if this is just paranoia that comes from distant history, or if there is more reason for it. Either way, I suspect the new move will be good or great, especially if your frame of mind going into it is strong (and you know you control that). I'm sure you will make new friends quickly, and you can stay in touch with long-distance friends and family. As far as H, all you can do is focus on you, and be the "you" that you want to be in the R, giving him less or no reason to wander. It seems to me that most As (although certainly not all - some people, and men more often, seem to just be insatiable) are a symptom of something else missing in the R. I know that you are experienced enough to be looking for those sorts of issues in your R, and to look for solutions for any disconnects you find.

Whew. I don't really know where that came from, but there it is.

Well, I am glad it came out, and I hope I helped a little. I'd be happy to discuss it more if you want. I'd also be happy to shut up.

Later,
Nomo