Shes very unsure , thats a given. Sometimes I wish I could figure out what she is thinking.
I actualy have been to her place for the last two hours helping her learn how to deal with her problems at work. I actualy have got tired of hearing about this stuff over the last week and sent her a TXT , It said " I can help you learn how to deal with your work problems , Phone me " I didnt expect a reply but I was not home for a few minutes and she phoned. As I have in the past managed staff I presented it to her as a management problem. It was difficult to get her to adjust her point of view from victim to goal setting. She has been placed in a position she does not want , and has been making it known through her attitude at work. I think I have convinced her that is she stays on that path it will make her a problem that will need to be dealt with in some way. She was worried that if she showed a good attitude they would think she is happy and leave her there. I got her onto thinking about her Goals and used " fake it till you make it " , " ask for what you want " . " you can only control yourself " and other good DB'ing stuff. She kept drifting back to self pity and I kept dragging her back to her Goal. She would say , I will just tell them to shove thier job. I said draw up a list of positives. If you leave you are going to be in a much worse position. I think I actualy got through.
I have a motive for this if I can get her to deal with this problem in an effective manner then a little may rub off with regards to dealing with her other problem ( me ) .
Sunny
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Was a Dead Head in a previous life.
I still am ...LOL
I also have a big preference for Vinyl , Music is one thing that I realy enjoy and has been an Oasis of tranquility for me. I have a wide range of tastes and what gets a spin realy depends on my mood.
