Shocked H in NJ looking for DB help

[Nomopo]

Hi Will.

The only thing that gets me, is that she seems and says that she's positive we're done. She says shes only willing to do therapy because she wants us to be friends after the Big D for the purpose of raising D, and because we strated as friends. I understand that i'm not supposed to believe everything she says, and I feel preety good most of the time (other than finding out something new like the other day!), but it is very hard to have hope when she seems so cold and certain.

At least part of the time (if not all of the time), she thinks she is certain. And she might be. Sometimes, they're just done. But there is a reasonably good chance she isn't really certain, or that she won't be certain down the road, or that she'll outright change her mind down the road. There are enough success stories out there with WAS who have been as "certain" as your W. Thus, the rule about not believing anything they say. (Plus, believing that "alien spew" is a real hit to your PMA.) So don't waste your time and energy worrying about those classic WAS lines; you'll need your t&e for your DB efforts.

I'm faking the funk the best I can, but this SUCKS.

Laughed a little when I read this. I said "this sucks" on my first (or second?) thread, and Ian told me: "Grrrr. Lose the 'this sucks.'" He was right. Attitude is a huge part of this, and you control your attitude!

Keep up the great work and attitude Will! You're off to a heck of a start!

Nomo