How we became separated

[mkultra]

H and I got into three battles today. DBing is not going well. GALing going great! Can you tell I do not know how to "Pick my battles"?

1st Battle: Carseats-He acts so irresponsible and dim about this. We had a tragedy in the Bay Area regarding a child left for dead still strapped in his carseat because of a sleep deprived father who changed one thing in his schedule to throw him off. That could have been anyone but my H has forgotten to pick up the kids twice! And he always forgets their carseats cuz he does not want to drive around in a Daddy Mobile!

2nd Battle: Disneyland. As single mom to be I dreaded the fact that I was scared to travel alone or be a third wheel to an intact family now that we are "fatherless". So, my mom and brother have decided to take an extended trip altogether! Wonderful! Not to H! He acted completely pissy? Why? He chose to kill the marriage with a toxic attiude and affair. I know it takes two to tango but I have been working my a*# off while tap dancing on eggshells around an elephant in the room. How's that for cliche?

3rd Battle: The house. Ya tell me that you have been lying about an affair. Yell at me because D6 knows about the OW from overhearing Grandma and Auntie talking about it. No apology or remorse and expect me to welcome you into my house for a playdate with the kids because you are homeless and have been kicked out your aunt's because you are a cheating liar? I was livid and stopped dancing on eggshells and let him have it! Big mistake really. I apoligized. Me. Because my mom told me too. See why below.

My mom heard and told me to be cool and let him see the kids whenever he wants because soon he will not even be able to see them as he works nights anyways. They will come back to me, the peacekeeper. She said judges like peacekeepers. Think King Soloman. She said to let him have all the access he wants to the house with some boundaries because it will soon be in my name as promised ( my mom bought it for us when we had our fist baby) -God willing because we live in California! Funniest advise-She said to be his friend-She said I will probably be his only friend because all the other people in his life are either associated with me or the job she will fire him from soon or people who cannot stand him anymore. She said to wait until the divorce papers are final to spit in his face. I laughed cuz I would never do that! She is so hardcore gangster it is scary. I am sorry if this offends anyone. I am trymg not to be anything like my mom. I feel like the opposite most times. Like a softie with a heart the size of Manhatten.