Strange how coincidences work I just mentioned her a couple of days ago in a post here and there she was this morning on TV so I listened to a bit of her while I drank my coffee before heading out the door.
I read her book "why we love" a few years ago and found it very interesting and insightful. It comes at love from a research point of view and she has studied the brain chemistry as well from the POV as an anthropologist.
I only caught the tail end of the interview but one thing that grabbed my attention, was her talking about two separate drives. One drive for lust and for love.
In the context of what many of our collective sexual difficulties stem from is expecting that the two should be in alignment. If you love me then you should feel lust for me. I know that uniting the two has been a struggle in my own life.
Here is a link to some free articles by the author. link
I'm going to read lust, attraction and attachment in the mammalian brain, because I'm just nerdy enough to f#ck.
