Don't know that I've posted to you before, but regarding your question about letting your W know the door is still open -- what about just telling her. A quick sentence or two and let it go. At least that way, you're sure she heard you.
Don't know that it's a great idea, but just a thought.
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY