Well, as for the goals, what are some things that you want to accomplish that are for you? Of course, you can make some goals for what you see happening, too but for now it is best to stick to the ones that focus on you.
Write down what you would like to do. Anything from a hobby to fitness, school, career, etc. Break them down into doable steps.
For instance and this is just an example.
Go back to school -talk to career counselor --make phone calls ---get transcripts made ----etc, etc
As for the boundaries. H is not showing up. Don't count on him and live like he isn't going to. If he so happens to show up. Show him that you were already doing your thing without him. If he questions it, just reply with a "sorry you feel that way" type of comment. Don't explain yourself or give an excuse or apologize.
