Look at Nomo's thread--there is a good quote there about letting them feel the pain, as hard as it is to watch. I think you did do the right (although incredibly hard) thing, there. I went through 5 months of H's cake-eating, and he is only now starting to feel bad (still all about missing the kids, but he has admitted to missing me, too. Wonder how when he is still seeing his CW girlfriend at least three days a week...)
