This is such good news! Wow a hug! He is thinking over what is going on in his head and he may find out it he that is unhappy and not that he is unhappy with you! Just remember baby steps. He felt good about the counseling session and talking about things. Remember that for the most part guys are not talking about the R or emotional stuff with others. Relief to talk. My therapist says after 28 years with me he misses my input, even if he resents my know it all stuff. Read the Divorce R. Although I am by no means an expert, look at my situation, I would advocate not calling him too much while you are out of town. My guess he is going to call you! Let him miss you and realize this might be how it is if you move back away from him! Believe me you do not want him back too soon. Or you will be doing the move in and move out dance like I have.
I hear you about the squirrel! I can handle all kinds of things and lots bugs here in the wooded lot and house but a dead mouse in the space in the basement to get to pipes! Yuck! I didn't call H, as it is a 25 mile trip one way. I used an old golf club to drag it out into a bag and ran screaming outside to the garbage. I love the woods here and I am in a subdivision. I lived in the city for 20 years when I came here at 18 to go to college. Lots to be afraid of there, 2 legged kind. I have had H come as our garage door fell apart one day as he had not kept the bolts lubricated and I could not get it up to go anywhere.
I am so happy for you! If it isn't me I am sure glad that someone is working on it. On my side I agreed to " settlement" just through email.. My therapist said I did well to do a 180 so that when H said I want your answer I said give me till today and then I said I think we should set a date to file. H somewhat balked at that, said this should be settled first. T told me to email him as H had brought up we should sign this. This is not legal and binding and T said make arrangements to sign it and then he can stop arguing with you and start finding out he is still unhappy. He told me not to push him to file, but be agreeable. KEEPing him away from attorney. I felt anxious but T says I still don't think he is going to go thru with this. I left him a voice mail this a.m. that Settlement was fine as is, email you later. I emailed him to email S to sign or bring it out here. Left him a voice mail that I sent him an email. No answer as yet. Hope this makes him happy. The other thing is my T said as H is such a man of his word that he will honor this agreement even if a lawyer pushes him... you ( me) on the other hand have the right and will change your mind if need be...
Is your dog all alone when you are gone? Remember to do what is working with H. NO fighting is good! Let me know what is going on and as usual thanks for letting me vent a bit too! This is such good news!
