Well, he made it to the session today so that is encouraging. The first question she asked him was "Are you done?". After a long hesitation he said he didn't want to say "done" because that made it seem like he was disguisted with our marriage, and that wasn't the case. He is just unhappy with his life. He is questioning all the decisions he has made in life such as joining the air force and getting married. So, she rephrased and said "Is your marriage over?" He said he didn't know...at least he didn't say yes.
The therapist thinks that he is depressed, which I agree with. She thinks he doesn't feel like he knows who he is and that he is questioning and over analyzing decisions he has made and what he wants to do with his life, which I also agree with. She had me tell him who he is, as she thinks that right now I know him better than he knows himself. I think that part went well and will hopefully get him to thinking. She also said we should have at least weekly contact. He agreed to that. She said not to talk about the marriage...just try and be friends first. I can do that.
I came home, and the dog had killed a BIG squirrel and it was on the back patio. Now, I am independent...but I am a total girl when it comes to things like that. So I called H and asked if he would mind coming over and taking care of it. He said he would come. He came over and then he asked if it was ok for him to pay the guy for rent today. I said yes and i appreciated him letting me know. He asked if he needed to tell me everytime he spent money and I said no as long as it would be ok for me to call him and let him know if things were getting low or we needed to cut back. I said this because I feel like if I call him I am "bugging" him, and I told him that. I told him that I debated on even calling him about the squirrel. He said it was fine and I could call him for anything. And then.....he walked over and gave me a hug!! Wow, first physical contact in a while. I didn't get greedy, just hugged back, but it felt SO good.
Also, when he was over here I asked if he would mind feeding the dog next week. He said yes, and then I said "I am going home for a week"...and he said "I know". WHAT!!! I said "How do you know?" He said "I saw your itenerary". Again, WHAT!!! I asked how he saw it and he said it was hanging out of my purse. I highly doubt that. MAYBE it was hanging out, but it was definitely folded up. Man, I don't feel so bad for snooping now.
Anyway, I guess a good session and a good day. No fighting is always good.
