Thank you Grace! I always look forward to your posts and am grateful for the insight you give. My H. is trying to transfer from within to a job that doesn't require him running into her daily. I think that would help alot. We both went to my C. today and it was a good session. She lent me the companion book DB to read. I tried earlier to read it but I am just trying to deal with emotions and can't digest the methods recommended. I am going to try baby steps. One is to let my husband back into the bedroom to sleep even if there is no intimacy right away. That was one suggestion she made today. Grace you are a blessing to me. Love, Violets