Hi About2bdvorced, thanks for the suggestion, but herbal supplements are out for me too. I am not going to take something that alters my brain chemistry.
Catfan, I know you are right about her feeling that she was swallowing her pride to come back. During our separation I got that message from her. She would say that she would lose and I would win if she came back. I just never viewed it like that, it seemed more like a losing situation for everyone except the lawyers if it came to a divorce. As far as my counselor working on my anxiety, I have brought it up several times but the discussion always seems to leave that issue and move to something less relevant (like talking about dreams). I’m just going to take a break from her and perhaps look into finding someone else.
imLIN, I have talked with my wife about my anxiety, she has listened and made suggestions. The suggestions again just do not sit well with me. She has offered me some of her Ativan (I said no) and suggests I lay down the law with my psychologist and not let her go off onto some other subject. Laying down the law at the therapy session does not sit well with me. I do not enjoy conflict, or confrontational relationships and I think that would be the outcome. There has been some good hat came from seeing the psychologist, it just seems that the good stuff has ended and now it’s just rehashing painful events in the past. I like your idea of taking a mental break from problems, Maybe I just need to take some long walks.
Hey FLTC, it’s good to see you’re still OK in Iraq. I think about the troops, family, and friends I know over there every day. You brought up an interesting issue in the cost of seeing a psychologist. I have been thinking about that too, it became difficult to write the checks for something that was making me feel worse, as well as the time that it took out of my life to go see her. So I canceled my next session without rescheduling.
I’m not wishing anything bad on you but it is nice to see that I am not alone dealing with the anxiety problem. Your vacuum cleaner story is EXACTLY how I feel. That something small and insignificant gets blown into something huge. I have to say I have not been working out as much as I should; I’m going to try to pick that back up. It certainly won’t hurt.
I spent time in the Middle East during the first gulf war; I know the climate is awful. I cannot imagine living in that environment day after day now. I did it when I was in my 20’s but not at 46. Stay strong, your troops are looking at you for strength.
Initially the reconciliation was very awkward. I think my wife has gotten back to being comfortable in our relationship quicker than I, and that is not bad. I want to be able to feel secure and comfortable and I am not there yet. Hopefully time will help.
