Since my H and I are seperated, should I be contacting him or let him contact me? We don't have children together so we don't have that connection. I wonder if "ignoring" him will make him think that I don't care, but I also wonder if contacting him will be "pursuing". Maybe I should contact him only for business like stuff and don't bring up the R?
My gut is don't contact him for a while unless you have a good reason/need to. And consider letting a few of those needs accumulate first. Contacting him to tell him a funny story or to say hi, or forwarding email joes, all could be construed as pursuing. He needs time and space. He needs his negative emotions about the M/R (and you?) to subside a little. But don't ignore him or avoid him (eg, going dark) if he initiates contact (and use those opportunities to show him the new you - happy, positive, upbeat, everything is goin great!)
Hope it helps, Nomo
M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link
