Separated from WAW

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Lunch with W went fairly well. Kept it light and cheery most of the time. I did say that I wanted her take on giving her space vs calling. She said she had felt like I was contacting a little too much. I said I was hoping that we could talk a bit more often. Then said, I'm trying to guess at this and realized I just needed to ask you and get your feelings. She said she didn;t know the right answer. I said just tell me what your feeling is, there is no wrong answer. I also said part of the reason we're here right now is b/c we did not talk about things like this.
As she began to tell me, it took us to talking about the impending 30 day point. She brought it up. I said, well, I'm so uncertain as to what's going to happen at that point. That is part of why I wanted to talk a bit more often. We agreed to discuss things at that time, after we both have met with C again. We will each talk to C about this and then establish 1 of 3 things:
1. Continue separation and talk about more concrete boundaries
2. I move back in, but also establish ground rules
3. Give Up
I made sure to say give up, not D. Then I said, of course I don't want #3 (like she doesn't know that). And she just looked at me as if her eyes were saying, "But I do." Ouch
Then she said we weren't going to figure it out today and we would see each other Sunday anyway. So glad she brought up our date. We laughed about how hard it is going to be to give the dogs baths.
So, Sunday's goal is no R talk unless she brigs it up.
One other thing, she asked why I was all of a sudden so into getting into shape and eating better. I simply said I was unhappy with myself and decided to stop complaining and start working on it. I did not like myself when I complained so much. She kind of nodded in agreement! I threw in that I was working on not drinking during the week to help keep the weight off, and that I knew I was way too lazy when I start drinking early. Another nod from W.
So the seeds of change are in there, now that actions must continue.
I really think we will extend things in a few weeks. I am shooting to have a move back in date for Oct 1, if not earlier. I have to think about how to present it so she knows I am not taking that to mean we're back together. More of an in house separation. Will suggest separate bed rooms if I have to. Probably will at first. One of you said early on that getting back will really increase my odds, as she will see the new me daily. Will talk to C about how to approach as well. Any advice on how to breach this, and perhaps when would be great.
Thanks,