In response to your question: I asked that we set aside some time to read the book last night. Our C suggested that we read it to each other - that it is therapeutic. It was anything but therapeutic...
I should have trusted my instincts and just dropped the subject. I knew it wasn't going to go well. I got through the introduction and she was not at all interested. She just seemed frustrated and angry. After I finished, she told me that I wasn't 'getting' what she's been telling me. She doesn't feel as though it makes sense to work on the intimacy issues. That it is something that should more naturally. She has reiterated that her desire has been lacking for as long as the marriage and that she has made peace with her decision about not really wanting me. Painful, especially when I can think of plenty of times when there was plenty of passion. This is alien talk right? I need to just stop pushing the issue at this point and start really DBing. GAL, 180, etc. I'm going to stop pushing and get off her back.
