New to DB, need guidance

[Nomopo]

(((((bb)))))

I should have never told them about my problems, but I was so upset and had to talk to someone. Hopefully, in time they will accept what I am trying to do. I just hope that they don't disown me if we reconcile.

Don't worry. They'll be fine. You'll be fine. I doubt serioulsy they disown you if you reconcile.

I also wanted to say that I don't think the whole problem is the A. I think the A was a by product of all the problems in our marriage.

This is excellent. The same is true in my sitch.

and honestly I can't blame him.

I disagree, but blaming him won't solve your problems. I have forgiven my W (I think ), but I will always feel the A was wrong. Look, I was just as disconnected and unhappy as her (not a loving M for me either), and I didn't have an affair.

I did the same thing, but came to my senses..on my own.

So he can blame you too. You both made mistakes. Now, all you (and he, even if he doesn't know it) can do is focus on what you do starting now.

This place is such a safe haven for me. I can say what's really on my mind and not be looked at like I'm insane.

You don't look insane because you're surrounded by other crazy people here. Just kidding!

Nomo

Thanks again. [/quote]