Dom R- You are totally and completely correct. I just buzzed thru Love Must be Tough and I have made some HUGE strategic errors. And now that his departure is a few days away, they would look silly to be employed this instance.
He HAS been telling me what to do (stick up for myself) and I have let both of us down. Argh!
I think that once he is out and I have my bearings, I will be able to say "Now that you've been out, I have had a chance to really reflect on things, and I'm not interested in being part of a harem....etc" My exact statement still needs work.
I have built a VERY strong case for why he SHOULD date me; "it wouldn't be a fair comparison to compare new and exciting to familar and boring" "I am changing during this process and you'll still be using the "old me" to compare" "Counselor says if we never see each other, we won't have the opportunity to "work" on the relationship", etc.
How do I UNbuild my case?
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
