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[ACJ]

I'm glad your H wants to talk to the kids about this sitch at the weekend BUT shouldn't the two of you gain agreement first. I learnt the hard way that unless you present a united front the walls come a tumbling down before very much longer. You are right this really is a big issue, not least b/c your H (from what you have written) seems to only be thinking of himself still. If your H really wants your D & S to stay put in the educational establishments they are already in he wouldn't even have suggested this idea. My view is that it is time he put his family's needs first (but yours may be very different).