I don't understand all the frustration over this topic. ... But this silly arguing over who is going to take responsibility for a decision is just an attempt to avoid being blamed by the other for you making a poor decision.
Actually, Cobra, I think I misled you here. In our case, they really were just discussions ... not arguments ... ludicrous only in that two functioning adults couldn't solve the problem of what they wanted to eat at that moment. Some frustration, perhaps ... at ourselves as much as the other ... but no major angst and no blame.
Sometimes we do the, "I just want cereal, can you fend for yourself?" thing too.
All this reminded me of one of my favorite cartoons which is for all time enshrined on my fridge (does anybody remember Sally Forth?):
Sally: "What would you like for dinner, Ted?"
Ted: "I don't care."
Sally: "How about creamed eggplant on raisin toast?"
Ted: "!!!" (facial expression of extreme revulsion)
Sally: "Now that we've established you DO care, let's talk about what to have for dinner."
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
