ok so why do i let little things get me so upset? he is supposed to be here today to watch the kids so i can go to work. he is out of the house, but since i only work for four hours on wednesday and he has to go to work right when i get off it makes sense for him to just come here and hang out. not my favorite, cuz he hangs around this house like it is still his.
his girlfriend is giving him a ride here and picking him up because he is dropping his car off to get the tires done, something he should have done a LONG time ago, now they are bald.
he calls me to tell me, that he doesn't think he will be here in time for me to get to work on time, i tell him it is hard to say since i still have almost two hours to get to work. he is taking the car to a friends shop for a deal on tires and it is about 45 minutes away. Said he didn't think about the traffic. of course, he never thinks anymore.
i tell him to just call me when it gets closer to me being at work so i can let them know how late i will be, etc.
he then says, "I think i overspent in the account", I ask "have you been balancing your checkbook". he says no. all these years i have been the one to do all the banking, he was always very bad at not giving me receipts and telling me when he spent money, but i always left extra money in the account to account for that. when he moved out, we went down together and got a second joint account, but said it would be his. i am on it, in case i need to do something to it. we decided on how the money gets split, and he has more then enough to spend, but he is blowing it at the liquor store from what i can see. i remind him he has a seventy five dollar check to deposit and he says oh yeah (i gave it to him two weeks ago) and he asks me if i have his account number, or if i can do it.
AHHHH! he is never going to grow up.
So would it be against DB'ing to tell him that he moved out, he needs to not ask me about these things, and he needs to figure them out on his own, or do I just keep my mouth shut?
My other question is, I have to go to work today, where we all three work, myself, H, and the OW. and last week I told people, and it turned into the telephone game and he called me and yelled at me, and it got nasty. I now realize if I want any chance of reconciliation that I need to be quiet. So I just keep my mouth shut and not say anything. I am thinking I will just act as if. If anyone asks how I am doing, I say great, thanks for asking.
Doesn't hurt that I am on day two of my Lexapro and I can already feel a difference.
