Frustrated and Saddened #2

[stewart10]

but to help this, next time you have an a thought, you need to knock it out with a d thought. d is going to come in and take it back to reality, maybe they are all like that at the hospital. are they? bring it back to reality and then look again. it has helped me.

Good advice. I will try this next time.

Your trip to Baltimore didn't sound all bad. She got sick. It's not her fault. I've recalled times where we had planned spending time togehter and my W would get sick and I'd get aggravated. It's not an attractive thing to do on our parts. Sounded like you handled things well though.

BD

I know what you are saying. Just disappointed that she knew we had a big weekend coming and she chose to hang out with her sick friend which basically made the weekend a lot less fun than it should have been because she was sick and slept alot. And I did not let on to her that I was disappointed. That is why I had to post so bad on Saturday night. To get it off my chest, so I didn't say anything to her about it.

Sorry the Baltimore trip did work out as you planned. It didn’t sound terrible though. Hope your sister gets well soon.

As far as the co-worker situation…I can see why witnessing this exchange has your imagination running wild. You have already done a little snooping and caught your W in some lies/cover-ups regarding this man. I can see why you are concerned. But you have to remember if she is having an inappropriate friendship or more with this man it has nothing to do with you. It’s all about her and her decisions. Don’t beat yourself up about it esp. if there has been not concrete evidence. Put the imagination on pause and continue to work on yourself, GAL and detaching from her.

The Baltimore trip was not terrible. I still had fun and it was nice just to spend some time together with her. My sister is being discharged tomorrow. They had her on IV antibiotics since last Friday. I understand about my imagination running wild. But, it is the deception that makes it happen. If she would just tell me the truth, like tonight we hung out with so and so, then I would not have a problem with it. But instead, she lies and doesn't mention him, and then the next day I catch her in the lie. If there is nothing for me to worry about, why lie about it. You are right though, if she is doing something inappropriate, it has nothing to do with me. She is the one choosing to live like this. She has to live with the consequences of her choices.

Thanks everyone for the reality check.