Aha, I remembered my thought for you, such as it is. Is your counseller offering any positive actions for your H to DO or is she/he just allowing both of you to get your feelings out? You may have mentioned this earlier, but can't recall.
I found that when my W and I went to counselling, she gave up on our M as my W was adamant in that "It's over." Got a lot of feelings out, but didn't offer any advice for how feelings can change (don't even think she mentioned that feelings can change, though that may just be sour grapes on my part).
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
