Funny, I was watching the movie "The Break up" last night, the one with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn, and during the fight scene I found myself watching the guy and listening to him argue and yell, and I was thinking to myself, Man, that guy is really screwing up, all he's doing is pushing her farther away from him. It's funny how different you look at things now that you know what NOT to do.
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The good things about these convos with my W is that Communication is one of her Love languages.
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You could be right. I kicked my H out of the house which is what I thought that I wanted at the time. Maybe I was hoping that he wouldn't actually go thru with it. He did come back a couple days later and ask if he could stay in our trailer and I was going to let him until he asked if I wanted him to tell the kids about us splitting so I told him that he couldn't stay. After he was out I was wanting him back. Told him then that the saying is true about not knowing what you have till it is gone.
Me: 41 H: 39 D: 6 S: 4 M-14 T-16 first bomb: 5-12-07 (M dead doesn't really want to work things out.) second bomb: 6-4-2007 (found note he wrote about wanting desperately to be with OW and would have to give up everything) Kelley
Told him then that the saying is true about not knowing what you have till it is gone.
Lol, thanks, I now have the song " Don't know what you've got 'til it's gone" playing over and over in my head.
I hope I'm right and that she's missing me, makes me think that maybe I should have moved out earlier.
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Sounds like she's really thinking about things. Keep it up!
I really hope she is.
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Whoa! Talk abouit a shot to the PMA, my W just called me to see if it was okay for her to right a check to her attny for $1700, my heart did skip a few beats, but I just replied "Sure, that's okay", then I asked her how her day was going and she says "Okay I guess" and then we made some small talk about my daughter. All in all I think I handled it very well, but I am mulling over whether I should tell her that I'm letting her go because I love her and want her to be happy, not because I want the divorce, thoughts anyone?
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Oh, and I know I shouldn't let that affect my PMA, and I won't dwell on it because it's not like it was unexpected. I'm going out to eat with a friend tonight, so i have that to look forward to.
Me:38 W: 35 Married 11 years 2 daughters ages 7 and 3 D filed by her [url]http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1143353&page=2#Post1143353[/url]
but I am mulling over whether I should tell her that I'm letting her go because I love her and want her to be happy, not because I want the divorce, thoughts anyone?
Don't you think she knows?
M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link
Really, I'm not sure, of course my fear is that she thinks I'm letting go because I want the divorce, but, I did tell her I loved her when I told her I was letting go, so, yes, I guess she does know. It's my fear, I'll have to get over it.
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