DGM - detaching, GALing, moving on...

[JMC]

This is day 9 of no snooping, and it is getting easier every day, although there are times when I really have to call upon all my strength to not look into her email account (I have found a way to get into her work email - we have been separated for 5+ months).

I continue to want to believe in a reconcilliation, and feel that she is in the replay mode of MLC. We talk mainly about money (i.e., storage facility bill) and our D, but she asks what I did over the weekend and has asked if I would be interested in dinner and lunch. I say sure, give me a call.

I sometimes so want to go off just to let her know that I realize she still sees OM at least once a week (in this case she is the OW, as the guy evidently has a serious girlfriend), but I know that she is in MLC and that would not get me anywhere anyway as I came upon the info from snooping in her home computer (I babysat the cats one weekend and was able to guess the password to her home computer) and cell phone records.

I am going to my first divorce care meeting tonight and look forward to what I may gain from there. Anyway, I have had some random posts, but this is my new motto DGM, as the title implies, because after reading so much here and in DR and other books, I have come to realize that all I can do is lovingly detach, GAL, and move on. Thanks everyone for being there on this BB.