Thanks every one for the support , but I still make the odd blunder.
I got home tonight and W's Car is in drive. Go in and she has prepared dinner , third night in a row. Anyway she tells me about her work which is not going so well at present , same story from last 2 nights so I listen for a polite amount of time and then change the subject noticing a picture D painted. I then said to W " you do not need to keep preparing dinner for us you know" W said "but you dont always get home early" and I said " It wont hurt if dinner is 1/2 hour later " well then the tears started and she said goodbye to kids and hurried off . I sent her a Txt later appologising for being insensitive. but never got a reply.
Her LL being acts of service means I just handed her a big rejection , I guess at a delicate time.
I feel realy bad about hurting her because she dosn't cry easily. I guess it was a stark reminder to her that she left this family of her own decision and that I am able to get along without her help. Also that she cant be separated and expect to control whats happening at home as well.
I know its something I needed to do but I never thought she would take it so hard and why in heck to I feel so bad about doing it?
Oh yeah Sunny , I love Neil Youngs music , W hates it so I get to listen to it a lot more these days.
