It was good to meet people who have been through it.... I was there VERY early in the process(given that my H hasn't even moved out yet) but I'll be damned if I am going to sit passively and just wait for life to happen.
Hearing them talk about time frames to get over the hurt, though, was a bit depressing. *sigh*
We had a little chit chat yesterday after my Stepson called to complain about my H's parents and how rude they are. Long story short, during the convo, he talked about how he referred to my daughter as his sister (he always does) and his Grandmother (H's mom) was like "What sister?" He says my daughter's name. Then the grandmother (my MIL!) says "You consider her your sister? What has she ever done for you? She just got you in trouble blah blah blah." Nice. Stepson was also concerned that H was being negatively influenced by them and their hoity toity attitude. (Point well taken.)
So, I talked w/H and he said that he doesn't listen to them. However, it's no secret that his mom hates my mom. And, it's no secret the FIL doesn't really like me or my daughter. (Everyone will agree that he can be a very pretentious a'hole.) Now, I just feel flipping tired of the whole thing.
You know, it was bad enough when MIL didn't offer ME any sort of support, but to throw my daughter (who my Husband adopted) under the bus like that. I just have to shake my head.
Last night he said that once he is gone, he doesn't think he'll be back..but he could be wrong. At least he always throws the possibility out there-however remote that is.
I am still torn about whether or not to date him. (Not have sex, just go do fun stuff-if he asks.)
He's definitely a cake eater....
Last edited by Agent99; 08/01/0705:38 AM.
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
