Why should men marry (According to Deida)?

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Grrrrrrr ... just lost my post. Ok, let's try this again ...

MJ, I totally read it wrong; my bad. I must say that the Lance-man sounds spectacular overall, so why nitpick?

.... did you tell him he provided *plenty* of fun? ....

Lillie, I'm sure most men who still adhere to that tradition don't mean *anything* negative by it. Strictly speaking for myself, however, I have trouble overlooking the "It's appropriate for the man to speak for the woman" subtext. I adore men, but I can speak for myself.

Corri, you and your bf seem to have it worked out really well. As long as you're both happy with the division of labor when it comes to being the "social secretary", that's all that matters, innit?

We have had some ludicrously drawn-out "What do you want for dinner?" conversations in my house. Not sure that has anything to do with PA, more like the state of terminal indecision induced by poor planning, hunger, and exhaustion.

Usually, if there's nothing already planned, we trade off deciding. Not in any formalized way, more like, "Ok, I picked last time ... your turn." Or, "I have no strong opinion, so if you do, it's your choice." Or, "I'll go get it if you choose/cook it." Seems to work pretty well ....

Lately, for the first time in our 17-year marriage, we've been cooking together on Thursday nights. Picking a menu, shopping, and cooking together. Neither one of us are gourmet chefs, but we are drinking lots of wine and having lots of fun ...